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| Master_Quiet Board Adminstrator and Warrior Quote | Reply | This message was updated on 6/17/2003 1:17:22 PM by Master_Quiet | question was posed to me looking for thoughts posted on: 6/17/2003 10:55:26 AM The other day a guy i went to school with asked me this question and to be honest i dont know how to answer it: He asked if a man/women is married in real life and comes on line and finds a girlfriend, FC, slave or what ever and cybers her . Is this person being unfaithful to the one who they are married too? Now his idea was they were as they were taking intimate time from there spouse and giving it to the on line relationship. Now to me i dont if it is or not I would like some imput from the gor population. Then go a step further would you risk your real life relationship by meeting this person |
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_Cyndi_
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replied on: 6/17/2003 1:23:28 PM Unfaithful? Hhhmmm If He is spending intimate time on line when He could be spending intimate time with His wife...yes, I would say He is unfaithful. Even if she understands the Gorean ways of a Master and His slave or FC it still would bring her pain. To some cybering/furring is only words of play, to others it is more like real feelings and passion being exchanged. Does He not consider His spouse's feelings? Would He not be upset if she were on line with another sitting at His feet or in the furs with Him when she could be at her Husband's feet in real? Maybe some Masters in Gor do not realize how their slaves truly love them and to them furring is an act of showing their love and affection. There is a fine line between role playing and real life when it comes down to many things in Gor. I have more opinions on this but I feel I have made or have hopefully made My main point clear. |
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Zehava
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replied on: 6/17/2003 4:34:22 PM Since I am posting already...might as well give my opinion on tis matter as well. Any time a person gives affection to someone other than their beloved other..to me that is infidelity. So I would have to agreee with Cyndi on this one ( as I usually do by the way). Being with one in real ,while being with another online is infidelity in my book. The exception being that they are actually one in the same and that fact is known by both parties involved. |
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-Master.Beast-
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replied on: 6/18/2003 12:30:48 AM Well, I can't speak for others but, for myself and angel as I have said over and over to those that know us. There is only 1 and to be with any other is cheating and wrong. I love my wife and if I was to come into chat and start getting involved with another it would be saying what I felt for her was not true and that there must be something wrong in our real life relationship. I come into chat to enjoy myself, make friends and learn and share what I know with others. Nothing more or less. |
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NyteSeeker
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replied on: 6/18/2003 5:36:14 AM Is cybering cheating? No, I do not think so unless you purposely and deliberately mislead someone into beleiveing there are real time emotions involved behind the act of cybering and that there is a possibility of a future for the parties involved in real time. |
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Bliss
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replied on: 6/18/2003 6:35:57 AM Im with Cyndi on this .its cheating ..its taking away love and affection for the wife ...I would be heartbroken If I was sitting watchingTV and Ven0m was furring some slave /FW ect ..~so much so there would be no more Ven0m~ I dont know how some married ppl can do it , maybe they trust more than Me ..I duno . Luckily I know My husband and I know He wouldnt hurt Me for the world and vise versa. As for the other question ..would You mind if He met the woman in real life ..HELL YEA!!!. If He can openly cheat in a chat room with Your permisson then Im pretty sure He wouldnt give two hoots about doin it in real. Its cheating .it may not be adultery at its worst .and may even in a divorce case .be laughed out of the court room . But for a spouse .husband or wife to neglet there real time partner for a online relationship with another is wrong . |
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Helene
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question was posed to me looking for thoughts
replied on: 6/18/2003 7:06:10 PM I'm not presently married nor involved, so it may be out of place for me to speak my opinion on this matter. Oh well. I'm gonna do it anyway ~grinz After reading this thread, then running to my favorite source (websters), I decided to explore all the different defintions listed as cheating: 1.To deceive by trickery; swindle: cheated customers by overcharging them for purchases. 2.To deprive by trickery; defraud: cheated them of their land. 3.To mislead; fool: illusions that cheat the eye. 4.To elude; escape: cheat death.To act dishonestly; practice fraud. 5.To violate rules deliberately, as in a game: was accused of cheating at cards. Informal. To be sexually unfaithful: cheat on a spouse. It is also well known that many do not consider cybersex as cheating. In my opinion, this is just a ridiculous justificaction to excuse the unfaithful partner from any guilt or responsiblity. In fact, I would even go so far as to say even if you didnt cyber with the other person involved, in some small way you may be still be cheating your mate if she was left clueless to the situation. I suppose, in the end, it all depends on the degree of knowlege your spouse or signifcant other is allowed when it comes to your daily online activities. If my partner was to engage in any form of realtionship on the side...be it sexual or not sexual, if he does not tell me about it he is swindling, decieving, tricking, misleading, being unfaithful, and practicing fraud... (All descriptions that can be found in the above definitions of a cheater.) If you have an online cyber bunny, and honestly feel there is nothing wrong with that, then I see no reason why you would need to hide this from your mate. He/she may not accept it, but they should at least be given the option of leaving the realtionship instead of being decieved by your selfish actions. |
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